Wedding speeches are an essential part of any wedding reception. They offer an opportunity for the bride and groom, family members, and close friends to express their love and gratitude for the newlyweds. A wedding speech can be a heartfelt and emotional tribute or a humorous and light-hearted anecdote, but it should always be sincere and proper for the occasion. In this blog post, we’ll discuss the different types of wedding speeches and supply tips on how to deliver a memorable and meaningful speech. 

 

Traditional speech order: 

  1. Father of the Bride: This speech is given by the father of the bride, and it usually begins with a warm welcome to the guests. The father of the bride expresses his joy and happiness on this special occasion and talks about the bride’s childhood memories, achievements, and how proud he is of her. He then welcomes the groom into the family and gives his blessings to the couple.
  2. Groom: The groom thanks the guests, family, and friends for attending and talks about their love for each other. They may also share their future plans and dreams as a couple. 
  3. Best Man Speech: The final speech is given by the best man and is usually humorous and light-hearted. The best man shares funny anecdotes about the groom’s past, how he met the bride, and talks about their relationship. He also offers advice to the couple and proposes a toast to their happiness. 

 

When to have your speeches 

As with all aspects of your wedding you can decide when you want your speeches. At the end of the day, it is your day. 

Traditionally it is at the end of the meal once desserts have been cleared, and for good reason. 

It is becoming more popular for the speeches to be at the beginning of the wedding breakfast before the starters as for those who are nervous, they are getting the speeches out of the way. Of all the tips in this guide the following is the number one. Never have your speeches before dinner. Why? 

  1. The kitchen will have an uncertain start time which makes getting your dinner ready far more stressful. If your speeches over run, then a cooked starter can be ruined. 2
  2. Your guests are hungry, and you’ll be making them wait. Your speeches won’t go down as well. Secretly they’ll be thinking “Shut up already I want my dinner”. 

The worst of all options is to break up the speeches in-between each course. You are not only delaying the kitchen service multiple times, you are also asking your guests to stop their conversations, to stay at their seats (not go to the bar/toilet) and the bubbles will be sitting in the glass getting warm over the course of the wedding breakfast. 

 

Tips for Delivering a Memorable Wedding Speech: 

  1. Plan Ahead: Start planning your speech as soon as possible. Write down your thoughts, memories, and stories you want to share. Practice your speech in front of a mirror or a friend to get feedback. 
  2. Keep it Short and Sweet: Avoid long-winded speeches that may bore the guests. Keep your speech concise and to the point, around 3-5 minutes is ideal. 
  3. Engage Your Audience: Make eye contact, use hand gestures, and speak in a clear and confident tone. Use humour if appropriate, but avoid making jokes that may offend anyone. 
  4. Personalize Your Speech: Share personal anecdotes or stories that highlight the bride and groom’s relationship. This will make your speech more memorable and meaningful. 
  5. End with a Toast: End your speech with a toast to the newlyweds. Raise your glass and wish them a lifetime of happiness and love. 

 

My favourite speech opener 

Last summer at a wedding in Kent this was the groom’s speech opening line. The reason it is so good is that it creates curiousity, “Where is this going?”. It is then capped off with a fun punchline which got a great laugh.

I must admit I have been extremely anxious about having to make a speech today but got some great advice from one of the greatest Britons to have ever lived. 

In 1821 Lord Horatio Nelson aboard the HMS Victory ready to sail into the battle of Trafalgar made call to arms with his officers. 

“Gentlemen, today I shall be wearing a red coat for if I am injured in battle, I do not want the men to see their officer and commander wounded” 

And that is why, ladies and gentlemen today I am wearing brown pants. 

 

 

In conclusion, wedding speeches are an essential part of any wedding reception. They offer an opportunity for family members and close friends to express their love and gratitude for the newlyweds. Remember to plan ahead, keep it short and sweet, engage your audience, personalize your speech, and end with a toast. With these tips, you’ll be able to deliver a memorable and meaningful wedding speech that the newlyweds and guests will cherish for years to come.